That quote from Garden State got me thinking. We are all at different points in our lives. Some of us are still living at home (no shame in that at all) and others now have "a place they can call their own" - whatever that means. For most of us, up until we were 18 we had a pretty good idea of what home was. Home was the place where Mom and/or Dad and/or siblings were. The place where you had your own room (or maybe you shared it) where you could put your own things. The place where you had dinner almost every night. It gave you a sense of security and belonging.
But then we went off to college and we made a temporary new home. We lodged in dormitories and off-campus housing, but we still told friends that we were going "back home" for breaks. And now we are living in the "real world" and are tasked with making a new home for ourselves. I can't speak for y'all, but I can say that the house in New York that I grew up in for 17 years doesn't feel like home to me anymore. It feels like a place that has lots of memories and a place where I can put my personal belongings, but it doesn't feel like my home.
Now I live with five other people in a house that has been lived in since the 1950's. All of us will be out of the house in less than two years. But home is more than a house. A home is a place where you feel welcomed and safe, where you feel like you belong. I was having a conversation with the renowned philosopher Laura Lindsley about this. I said to her that every state you live in leaves an indelible mark on you, much like every friend you have. She replied that while that may be true, there is that one friend who impacts you more than others. So is the one state/house/physical place that impacts you the most your home?
Discuss.
-Conor